WELCOME TO GRIEF, GRACE, AND GROWING UP

Welcome to Grief, Grace, and Growing Up

Hi — and thank you so much for being here.
My name is Gracie, and this blog is something I never imagined I’d be starting at 18. But life has a way of changing your course in an instant, and this is where my journey — Gavin’s, too — is taking us right now.

On May 21st, 2025, at 3:33 AM, my fiancé Gavin and I said hello and goodbye to our daughter, Halleigh May. She was born still at 26 weeks. We don’t have any clear answers about why it happened, and maybe we never will. That’s one of the hardest parts: living with the unknown.

But out of that heartbreak, we’ve created this space — Grief, Grace, and Growing Up — as a way to grieve, remember, and honor our daughter. It’s a place to share our story and connect with others who are grieving too, because loss doesn’t have to be faced alone.

This blog is also a place to share the messy, beautiful, sometimes painful journey of growing up. Gavin and I are only 18, and we have so much of our lives ahead of us. I’m starting cosmetology school soon, with hopes of opening my own salon one day. Gavin is building his welding business from the ground up, working tirelessly to make his dreams a reality.

We want to take you along for the ride — through the highs and lows, the triumphs and setbacks. Life is full of unexpected bumps in the road, and we’re learning that it’s okay to fall down as long as you get back up. Whether it's chasing our dreams or facing the hard days in between, we want to share it all.

Our life isn’t perfect, but it’s our life. And even though grief will always be a part of us, we believe there’s space for growth, joy, and new beginnings too. Our journey isn’t just about learning to live with loss — it’s about learning how to live fully, even in the face of it.

If you’re here because you’re grieving, I’m so sorry. But I hope this space helps you feel less alone. If you’re here to follow along with our story — to watch us navigate life, love, loss, and the pursuit of our dreams — then welcome. We’re excited to share this journey with you.

Here’s to grief.
Here’s to grace.
Here’s to growing up — even when it’s hard.

With love,
Gracie


Comments

  1. DeAnne CarterJune 6, 2025 at 5:41 PM

    I’m here to help and love y’all both as you grow through grace & navigate your grief. Halleigh May will forever be your guardian angel & watching over you both. Never forget- let everything you do be something she would be proud to see you do. Love you baby girl ♥️🫶🏼

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  2. AnonymousJuly 5, 2025 at 4:54 PM

    I feel your pain , and know what you both are going through. I have five children. I'm 54 years old and I have prayed for many years for grandchildren. I've been told four times I'm gonna be a grandma and all four have been taken away. My oldest daughter lost two babies both at eight weeks pregnant . My middle son lost a baby at eight weeks pregnant . And now my youngest daughter just lost her baby at home, at fourteen weeks pregnant . It's difficult not knowing what happened. Like I told her everyone greives in different ways. You greave as long as it takes you but always come out stronger than ever, because God has plans for you all. It breaks my heart my daughter had to bury her own baby, but Daisy Rae will always be loved and in our hearts.

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